What is it with parents?
What do you do if you don't like your parents? What do you do if you don't like spending time with your parents? What do you do if it always seems that having a conversation with your parents always feels like an effort, and doesn't come naturally? What do you do if you don't miss your parents even though you haven't meet them for months? What do you do if you even dread getting their phone calls? What if you, for some reason, do miss them and go meet them, but then almost always regret meeting them? For what they seem to do is telling you that you need to do this and that, and seems not really wanting to know how you are?
What should you do if you think that your parents can spend more time with their children and grandchildren, but it always seems that they're only willing if it's convenient for them or if it's a chance for them to give a long speech?
What do you do if at times you extremely disagree with your parents' opinion but you just can't seem to voice your own?
I can totally empathize with you Trin. My mother never did find the right time to visit me after I told her I had breast cancer. A few months after I finished treatment, they needed to come to Singapore for surgery. When she called she was apologetic and said "sungkan" to ask me. What should we do? Hope no more that the relationship will be different. Just accept whatever they are willing to give. Beyond that, consider them as elderly acquaintances that you once owed your life to. Maintain a high level of civility when around them. Offer assistance if they ask, after all they are still our parents. Call them on special occasions like birthday and anniversary. Remember them in your prayers. FK.
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